Raise the Bar - but not too high!

So, I was flicking through the channels while waiting for Des to finish sending some emails, and I ended up with Dr. Phil. I enjoy Dr. Phil. I enjoy psychology. Not just because my husband was a psychology major, but because I think a small part of psychology is the art of putting into words the obvious when sometimes it's the obvious that we have no idea how to verbalize. Anyway, that's a bit of a banter.
I didn't catch all of it, but what I did catch was a husband and wife in trouble. Why were they in trouble? Expectations. The husband had this list of 70 things he thought a good wife should know how to do (mind you this list was not all inclusive - it did not include childcare duties). So this guy has this list, this 70 item list, and constantly compares her to it and reminds her of it when she falls short - come on people, the list has hip hop and country line dancing lessons, organizing the closets, and maintenance on household appliances!
So the tape shows them at home and the husband tries to get his wife to watch a movie with him. She declines saying she is too tired. He gets angry saying she doesn't make time for him, yadda yadda yadda. The guy even refuses to wear his wedding band thinking that if he does he will be telling the world everything is okay in their marriage. You don't have to imagine how that makes his wife feel...
So, wise wise Dr. Phil explains to the guy - you're expectations are too high! The guys asks him how he can get over his anger. Dr. Phil tells him he needs to not expect outrageous things (like perfection) from his family. The Dr told him he is holding on to his anger and making that anger his own. His anger is his choice.
Gosh, how many times do we do that with eachother? How many times do we (imperfect people) get angry with other imperfect people because they're not perfect.
Go give your imperfect spouse, your imperfect boyfriend, your imperfect girlfriend, your imperfect children a HUGE hug and tell them "I love you because you're you."